"What's wrong with me that I can't even enjoy my own community?" Usually, nothing. Here's how to build happiness when you're queer and neurodivergent.

I've had more people than I can count reach out to start therapy, text me before a scheduled appointment, or show up for the appointment dysregulated because of an identity crisis. That's what it almost always feels like — a crisis. A redrawing of a map they thought was settled, one that shifts self-perception enough to make them look at themselves in a whole new light. Prior to "the event," they were on solid ground regarding who they were, how and why they responded to thin

For LGBTQIA+ folks, it's common for the concepts of happiness and safety to become intertwined. In a world that frequently feels unsafe and filled with stressors for minorities, feeling safe certainly feels great! However, safety isn't the same as happiness, so let's work on distinguishing between the two. Think about the last time you walked into a first day — a new job, a new class, a first session at a new gym. You get through it. Nobody said anything inappropriate. You fo

"A practical guide to building happiness as a queer person — how to spot what really makes you happy, quiet the inner critic, and make it a daily habit."

There’s something deeply powerful about choosing happiness, especially when the world around you might not always make it easy. For those of us who identify as queer, happiness can sometimes feel like a rebellious act - a way to say, “I am here, I am valid, and I deserve joy.” I want to share with you how embracing queer happiness can be a transformative journey, one filled with self-love, community, and moments of pure, unapologetic joy. Embracing Queer Happiness: A Personal

Queer happiness isn’t just a dream—it’s a right. And yet, the world doesn’t always make space for it. Too often, our joy is overlooked, dismissed, or treated like a footnote to our struggles. But here? Here, we claim it. Building Happiness: Thorns and All exists because queer happiness deserves to be nurtured, explored, and celebrated in all its messy, thorny, and radiant forms. This isn’t about toxic positivity or pretending life is all sunshine and roses. It’s about real jo

There’s a misconception that happiness exists in the absence of hardship. That’s not true! In a world that can feel like it doesn’t even want us, it’s easy to forget the power of joy. Joy is a building block of happiness. I’m one of the queer folks that believes our joy is an act of resistance—a reminder that despite societal struggles, we are still here, still thriving, still finding moments of happiness. Queer joy isn’t just about celebrating milestones or success; it’s ab